So last week my best friend texted me and told me she met a guy who wanted to date me. I thought this was a little strange, but she explained she met him through another friend and somehow the conversation turned to me. She told this guy what I wanted to do for a living and showed him a picture of me. I figured why not give it a chance and she gave him my phone number. Well, it's been a week and I'm already fed up. I'm not usually a hard person to get along with, but this guy and I just have nothing to continue this relationship with.
Part of me is upset about it because I have, once again, driven a guy away. I just think it would be nice to be able to find someone. I'm realistic enough to know not every guy will be 'the one,' but it would be nice to have someone who is my one for the moment. The other part of me-the bigger part-knew I didn't want it to work because the only big reason for me wanting to is because of the possibility of making someone jealous. I know that sounds pathetic and bad, but I promise I'm not that type of person. The idea crosses my mind, but I have yet to attempt this except when I just say I'm into someone else.
However, this week experience has opened my eyes to things that drive me absolutely crazy, and what I have as deal breakers. I know I shouldn't be super picky, but I'm also looking for someone who will last. Here are some of the things that this past week made me think about. The balls are things that I'm okay with and the strikes are steps closer to me being done with the guy from this past week.
Ball 1: He works two jobs. He was discharged from the military and is now saving to attend a police academy. I feel this is very respectable.
Ball 2: He's a nice guy. The fact my best friend approved of him means a lot to me. She wouldn't have suggested him and I talk if she didn't think he was nice. He seemed generally interested in what I would have to say and would try to get to know me.
Strike 1: He was a little too friendly. One thing that drives me crazy is someone who will text you a million times if you don't text back within a few minutes. It's really just plain annoying. If I want to text you, I will text you back when I'm not too busy to text you. Another creepy thing was the second day we were texting, he asked if I wanted to go to the mall with him to look at a new ipod for him. I'm sorry, but I'm not willing to meet anyone I've only sent a combined 20 texts with. If it was with a friend who was introducing us, fine, but when he's already inviting me places when we don't even know the other's last names' is too fast.
Strike 2: He's close-minded. I know we all have our opinions, but if you're going to think others are dumb in their opinions, don't be a dick about it. I am both a huge country music fan and baseball. Country music is one of the only types of non-Christian music that actually has any real feels and emotions attached to the songs. I cannot tell you how many times a country song has been able to express exactly how I feel. Well, apparently country music all just says the same thing and has no emotional value to it whatsoever (this coming from someone who thinks Nicki Minaj is the best singer there is... ummm???). And with baseball, he thinks it's boring and there is no point to it. That I understand, I have heard that excuse a million times, BUT when he said this I realized how involved baseball is in my life. I absolutely love baseball, I want to work for the Colorado Rockies when I graduate and I am currently listening to tonight's game as I type. I'm not sure how this is going to work into future relationships, but I at least need someone who will understand my obsession and won't complain or try to turn off the game on me (if I'm not where I want to be in a few years).
Strike 3: If you're 22, don't act like you're two. So, I am a sociology minor. I thought about triple majoring, but decided against it. Sociology just makes sense to me. When I was explaining my theory that those who like blonde hair/blue eyes on girls are those who saw those images most while growing up. With that is the big boob and skinny characteristics often compared to a Barbie doll. He then asked me what my thoughts were about people who like Mustangs. I gave my opinion, and he was insulted by it. Granted, he drives an '05 Mustang, but my opinion doesn't change. I think any guy who owns a Mustang that is later than the mid-70's are just buying them because of the name. I also think a guy who owns a Mustang is attempting to make up for something down south. I think the Mustang has also been crap up until '07. Even with these models, I think they're a little feminine looking. However, I understand I hurt his ego, but I really think it's unreasonable to bring it up every five minutes after I've apolagized for telling him what my opinion was.
Am I completely wrong for calling three strikes?
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